The behaviors I expect of my children all fall under this small umbrella.
Q: Can I hit my sister?
A: Be kind and respect her. Do you want her to hurt you?
Q: If I don't want to clean my room now, can I wait until later?
A: If I told you to clean your bedroom then you respect me by doing it!
Q: What happens if I don't get my way and I start throwing a tantrum?
A: I told you that you cannot have/do ____ right now. Period. Respect me and accept that.
When my kids show me respect, I'm more willing to respect them and give them a little more freedom.
Yeah, I know its all easier said than done. But I'm committed to it. Its part of taking back control and feeling like I know what is going on around here! Wish me luck!!